How NOT to Rust, Burn & Die

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1 How NOT to Rust, Burn & Die Who s here? Big Dave Staughton Employers / Employees? Stressed? Burned Out? MY BUSINESS BACKGROUND QUICK EXERCISE Find a Buddy! 2000 weddings over 15 years 99% Satisfaction Best Wedding Reception Centre in Victoria 3 years in a row. (pick someone you don t work with!) Life is VERY SHORT RUST, BURN & DIE RUST Slowly diminishing energy, enthusiasm, & passion BURN Lose interest, empathy & no longer care. Inability to relate to others & loss of meaning in life. DIE from work-induced health disorders like cancer, CVD or mental disease (CORRODE by Acid) 1

2 What exactly is Burnout? Physical exhaustion + Emotional exhaustion + Mental exhaustion Three Messages from your Soul Prevention is much easier than cure Are you overdoing it? Exhaustion, Cynicism & Ineffectiveness leading to total Detachment. -Maslach& Leiter 5 Major Causes of Burnout Caused by prolonged exposure to unmanageable or unexpected levels of stress. Poor Support Values Clash Overwhelm No Control Change Weary generally a symptom of POOR MANAGEMENT! Higher Energy Lower Energy Seven stages of Burnout 1 Tired after work P 2 Still tired Next day P 3 Emotions Drained & Numb P + E 4 Short Temper at home & work P + E 5 Burnout phase Negative, lose Caring & Meaning P+E+M 6 Burnt out Incapable, Cynical & Detached. Low Energy. P+E+M 7 Recovery phase Rest Exercise Holiday Time Alone Revisit & QU or Physical Diet Diet SSS Focus on FIRED Recovery Sleep Your Values NEW ROLE Hypersensitive The Temple of Delphi Know Thyself Know Thy Measure Your caring attitude disappears over time 2

3 Your Personality type can determine whether you Rust, Burn or Corrode (Die) Based on your Genetics & Early Upbringing (~0-12) EXERCISE: 5 minute Temperament Test FOUR TEMPERAMENTS Are you the problem? It s a MISMATCH between YOU and the current ROLE Ask SERATONIN Amiable S Type Phlegmatic Peaceful WATER CORTISOL Analytical C Type Melancholy Perfect EARTH Feelings Facts DOPAMINE Expressive I Type Sanguine Popular AIR ADRENALINES Driver D Type Choleric Powerful FIRE Tell WHO BURNS OUT? The most creative, hard-working and committed people (CARE) MOST LIKELY Analyticals - especially Perfectionists Drivers Expressives Amiables LEAST LIKELY Personality reflects Values Your Values Values are the key to motivation and meaning Just Ask What s most important to you about? EXERCISE: Write down your top 3 life values in order of importance Sales too 3

4 WORK ADDICTION Is WORK your #1 Value??? What you SAY & what you DO You really know you re addicted to work when. It generally takes a major event or trauma to change your Values. Millenium Fiji Maddi Maslow s Hierarchy of Needs In one hundred years time, it won t matter what your bank account was, what house you lived in or what car you drove. Must satisfy the lower 4 levels before focussing on your B Values WE not ME The only important thing will be the impact you had on a child s life. Self Actualization & Maslow s 16 (B)eing Values The index of Burnout is a measure of the difference between who you are (BE) and what your doing (DO) BE DO - HAVE 1. Wholeness 2. Perfection 3. Completion 4. Justice 5. Aliveness 6. Richness 7. Simplicity 8. Beauty 9. Goodness 10. Uniqueness 11. Effortlessness 12. Playfulness 13. Truth 14. Honesty 15. Reality 16. Self-sufficiency RE-ENGINEERING YOUR LIFESTYLE What YOU can do to prevent Rust or Burn 4

5 Personal Strategies REDUCE YOUR STRESS LEVELS Aim for excellence NOT perfection do your best Get more Support Management, Team or at Home Prioritize use 80/20 Rule & Cut back Say NO more often be assertive & do less Retreat from 24/7 & Reflect More in SSS Life Balance Review & Values Journey Balance Your Body Chemistry (handout) CHRONIC OVERWORK How many hours per week is normal for your position in the Industry? How many Hours per week do you currently work? Why? Exercise: Discuss your Buddy Downsize your Wants & Needs DUMP Different Strategies for coping with too much START DELEGATE EXERCISE: Which ones do you use? The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you're still a rat. Lily Tomlin. AVOID DO ALL PICK FAVOURES Your CARE FACTOR PRIORIZE FROM ME TO WE What Employers Can Do A Journey from all About Me to About We or About Us - the Team Make a genuine commitment to aligning Team Values Show more interest, empathy & compassion with others Give more feedback and use positive communication Provide more support & resources Ask for help! 5

6 BUSINESS LOVE HLW Spread the Love! Be Grateful and Give Thanks more often Focus on Happiness & having Fun NOW Develop more Love for other People Team, Clients & public Have an ATTRACTIVE Vibration Kirlian Photography - Electromagnetic Energy Thoughts are energy. What s the Energy of your Vibration? Using your thoughts for MANIFESTING BE DO HAVE FORMULA FOR RESULTS VISION + PASSION + ACTION = RESULTS FOCUS Life is Short, Be Happy right now! Making a Difference NOT making a Dollar What s really Important? Pick your strength & weakness. Tell your Buddy! TAKE ACTION NOW EXERCISE: Write down three things that you will do in the next 7 days and your buddy s phone number RECOMMENDED BOOKS Leave your Business Card for a copy of Today s Powerpoint 6

7 DISCUSSION TIME Time & the Modern World 1. Job sharing? 2. Other strategies for coping with a 24/7 World? 3. Could you DO LESS and get better RESULTS? 4. What does Success really mean for you? 5. What does Happiness look & feel like? 6. What would you do if you had just 6 months to live? Working 24/7 Globalisation - More demanding Clients Information overload especially Managing more Relationships to manage High Expectations at home and at work Fast Paced, Task Heavy Nobody ever said on their deathbed, I should have spent more time at the business Men & Women equally suffer from Burnout Life Balancing & Review Rate Yourself for some important areas of your life When under stress: MEN Rarely seek help More cynicism Think of retiring Suppress emotions more Stress over System failure WOMEN Often Seek help More exhaustion Take sick leave Share negative emotions Stress over Relationships Career/Business Family Fame / Impact Spirituality Finances Fitness & Health Integrity & Ethics Mental Health Friends & Social Learning & Knowledge CATEGORY CAREER BUSINESS SCORE FAMILY FAME SPIRUALY FINANCES FNESS & INTEGRY & RELIGION HEALTH & ETHICS MENTAL HEALTH FRIENDS & LEARNING SOCIAL & KNOWLEDGE Emotional Brain Chemistry Affected by your Diet, Exercise & Thoughts and is reflected by your Body Type too Lower than normal CORTISOL levels: not caring inability to find meaning in life associated with Burnout sufferers 7

8 Just 6 Months to Live EXERCISE: What would you do differently if you found out you had just 6 months to live? REV up your life Revival, Renewal & Relationships Emotion, Exercise & Energy Values, Vision & Vibration 8